I believe creating open communication and strong connection with your adolescent in today's stressful, confusing culture means embracing five key parenting beliefs, these include: having Faith, remaining Calm, developing Courage, cultivating Patience and both giving and receiving Grace. When our children are younger, they are often affectionate and cooperative...but, as they hit the preteen and teenage years, gaining awareness and increasing independence, the dynamics at home, and in your relationship, can become "different"...maybe even tense and frustrating.
I know this, because I have been a mother (of five very unique individuals) for the past thirty years.
The middle and high school years are when kids really begin exploring who they are, and who want to be in the world. It's a time when mom and dad don't always have the most influence because peer and romantic relationships, academic and sports pressures, and of course social media all play a role in this stage of their lives. That's why it's important to create an environment in your home, and within the parent/child relationship, that fosters open communication and a hand-in-hand approach to working with your adolescent, so they will seek to invest time and energy into the guidance of mom and dad, in addition (of course) to what their peers contribute.
Through my own personal parenting struggles and in observing other parent's experience as well, it is my belief parents can best weather, and even enjoy, their child's adolescence by parenting consciously, meaning hand-in-hand guidance, instead of trying to dominate or control the relationship.
To get an idea of the level of challenge you may currently experience with your teen, have you been asking yourself any of the following questions:
- Why won't my child listen to me?
- Why does everything have to be an argument or a battle?
- Why don't I feel connected to my son or daughter?
- Why doesn't (s)he see how hard I am working, how much I am sacrificing to give (her) him a happy childhood?
It's normal to ask these things once and a while, but if you find yourself frustrated on a regular basis, perhaps it's time to look at a new approach to raising your teenager. My personal guidance, and the 12-week program I offer, has the ability to help you go from being frustrated and disappointed in the quality of your parent/child relationship to one where you can enjoy the interaction and growth you experience with your child.
What I have discovered in my own parenting, and in that of coaching others, is the secret to creating a great relationship with your teen is...ALL ABOUT US!
The challenges our adolescents bring into our daily lives has everything to do with US not them. Which is GREAT NEWS because it means WE are in the drivers seat to creating more peace in our relationships at home!
If you are willing to look within yourself (not to place blame, or to in any way shame) and to take a step back to look at how you were raised and how it may be impacting your parenting today, the program I offer will be able to give you great insight as well as the patience and skills needed to help you create a stronger, deeper connection to your adolescent son or daughter.
Do I desire a healthier connection with my son or daughter?
Do I want to bring more function to our family life?
Am I willing to work on myself in the process of improving the relationships under our roof?
If the answer is YES...
That's great news! I have the approach, the practical tools, and the personal guidance you need! Let's set up a FREE 30 MINUTE CONSULTATION so we can learn more about one another and be sure the program is a fit for you!
Want to learn more about me before you push the button? Check out my About Kim page.