Hi! I'm Kim Muench, Real Life Parent Guide and mother of five...
And this is my personal story of how and why I became a parent guide...
In May of 2008, I went through the greatest parenting challenge of my life. My eldest son called me from across the country to say he was in trouble...he was failing classes, about to lose his job, and his use of alcohol was out of control. He was twenty years old.
When I received his call for help, I didn't waste any time wondering how, or asking "why me?" I realized the way I had parented, and was parenting, was a contributing factor to a life threatening situation that could not be denied. While I worked with my son to help him seek long term sobriety, my energy and focus was on discovering and understanding where things between he and I, actually myself and all of my children, could be different/better/healthier/more connected.
I knew it started with me. And, to this day, it continues with me. So I began to learn about and practice parenting in a different light.
The quest to redefine my role as a mother who would guide, instead of try to control my kids choices and behavior, one who would work hand-in-hand instead of dominate the parent/child relationship, led me to research many parenting, self-discovery, and personal growth books. It prompted me to return to college to finish a degree in psychology, it led me to an internship where my greatest responsibility was supporting and encouraging other parents who had teens in outpatient treatment. In addition, this quest led me to spend a year writing and publishing a book about my experience as a mother with a child in the throes of addiction.
Ultimately, my quest led me to pursue a certification in parent coaching. Because I truly believe the quality of the relationship between ourselves and our children is the essence of what it will take to create positive change in the world not only during our lifetime, but in future generations as well.
Everything our children learn and experience starts at home with us, especially in their early years. But, did you also know our children are our greatest teachers? Dr. Shefali Tsabary said this in her book The Conscious Parent, which was the ultimate catalyst for my becoming passionate about helping other moms and dads work toward stronger connections with their children.
I call myself a "real life" parent guide because I have a very down-to-earth approach to balancing children's needs, parents desires, and keeping what our culture tells us about how our family life "should look" in check.
If you are ready, I can help you find what I have found with my own kids...peace, mutual trust and respect, playfulness, camaraderie, and above all else...unconditional love and acceptance.
My children, who are now in middle school/college/grown and flown, have taught me about where I needed to grow as a mom, and about the importance of having faith, calm, courage, patience, and grace incorporated into parenthood.