I picked up my new "look" the other day from the optical department at Super Target. They give my face a different look, and give me a clearer perspective on life. Especially as I step into the new role of helping others with their parenting. Real Life Mom is becoming Real Life Parent Guide!
Do you have a preteen or teen daughter that has a smartphone or who desperately wants one one? Do you enjoy reading books that scare you? Then Nancy Jo Sales' American Girls Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers is a book for you! If you have a son in that age range, you will find this book both enlightening and frightening about a topic this generation of parents is dealing with on a daily basis.
I am a natural born chicken shit, but this year I've decided to buck my own system and personally grow (and go) to places I have never attempted before. This week that included a trip with the family to iFly in Dallas for an indoor skydiving adventure to celebrate my husband's 50th birthday. Here's the story behind our experience...
Everything our kids say and do comes from what they see modeled by the adults in their lives, especially mom and dad. There is value in looking back to figure out how we can best move forward in raising authentic, well-connected kids.
How seriously do you take the words, "I don't want to grow up, I'm not ready." Why does it appear some kids aren't ready to make the jump into college life away from home...what's changed since we were heading out the door that has impacted this generation of kids?
Many people, including myself at times, are asleep at the wheel of life...especially when it comes to parenting our kids. One recent example with my teenage son shows just how easy it is to go "unconscious."
On a ten minute ride home from practice, my daughter's friend enlightened me about just how many things she worries about...everyday...anxiety and kids is a BIG problem, if your child suffers I have a great resource for you!
Have you ever scrolled through your news feed and felt like your kid was a loser? Where did you go wrong as a parent that you have no "big" announcements to share about your child's accomplishments? If we think teens are comparison crazy, we should look in the mirror.
What are the areas a parent could grow in that would help their child become the individual they are meant to be? This is what I pondered on a recent morning when graced by the presence of the five greatest blessings in my life, my husband, and a wonderful photographer who captured the moment.
As we enter the season of family gatherings, remember: it's the big picture...not the little differences that make for a celebration to remember, and one our children will have fond memories of as well.
The problem with The Elf on the Shelf is larger than parents who stress out over forgetting to move it, or getting creative with how naughty it can be, the big picture issue with this tradition is the message it sends about conditional love and rewards.
Today there are two large camps of adults...those who feel we should use corporal punishment because our kids are too coddled, and those who treat their children as if they can do no wrong, creating big egos. It's time to stop blaming everything else and look at how we contribute to the state we are in today.
It is important to find the humor in parenting. Let's face it, for many of us laughter and the ability to identify with other parents regarding the challenges and blessings of parenthood is what keeps us going a lot of the time. But, how we interact with our children when they are young makes a very important, long-term impression on who they become, so we have to be careful how we treat them.
How are your children triggering you emotionally? Maybe you are in conflict because your child reminds you so much of his parent? Read my personal story and learn how you too can build a better relationship with your child!
The way your marriage and family appears on the outside isn't necessarily the same picture behind the pretty front door. Why would you want to go and see a movie that reflects so accurately the marriage and family life of today? One simple 4-letter word, HOPE.
It's easy to say you don't have any big expectations for your kids, you just want them to grow up to be happy, contributing members of society...but, as your kids get older and begin to make their own choices, will you be able to live by that statement?
Have you seen the latest Nature Valley granola bar video? It's got a much bigger message than what to throw in your backpack as you head out the door...and it's point has far reaching consequences. Though I can only speak for my house, I'll bet this goes on in yours as well.
My mom needed some yard work done, I volunteered my kids. When they didn't meet my expectation of how I wanted them to respond to the situation I was tempted to scream...I did something completely different which changed the outcome of the entire event.
During our annual pilgrimage to "the old country" (Wisconsin), I realized the highest form of connection is sharing our stories. Whether we are struggling with parenting issues, marriage troubles, or physical symptoms, when we take the time to share part of our journey with others, we walk away with the feeling our load is a little lighter and more manageable.
A crisis with my oldest made me question the way I was parenting. Could there be a better way...one that would benefit both my children and myself? I found that path, and I am committed to sharing it with other parents because I truly believe it is the avenue to an emotionally, spiritually, physically healthier family life.
As the pendulum swings further and further towards tolerance of all lifestyle choices, how do you think this affects our children? My bet is it confuses the bah-jeezus out of them, whether they admit it or not.
What kind of mother has a hard time saying words like penis and vagina? Thank goodness there are people like Mary Flo Ridley and programs like "Sooner Than You Think" to help parents like me who pause with great anxiety over this topic!
Since when did the practice of outing your child's bad behavior on social media make for good parenting? While it may work in the short-term, those who decide to do so aren't understanding the long-term ramifications. Do you agree?
She's turning TEN! The three words that describe how I feel about the next ten years of being her mother? Anxious, angry and able. I am sure you can agree raising a daughter today (or any day) takes a lot of guts!
Keep communication open, but don't be a friend. Protect them, but don't enable. Be there, but don't hover. Everyday is a new adventure in walking the tightrope of parenthood, and everyone has advice on how to do it best. Here's how I measure my success as a mom...
There is so much pressure to be the perfect parent today...almost as much pressure as there is on kids to do/be/perform flawlessly. But, the God's honest truth is there is no perfect parent or perfect child. So, why do we spend so much time setting ourselves up for failure?!