The Marriage Mask

Tell me, does this look like the picture of a happy couple??  

Kim and Tom 3


THIS is a picture of a couple, married for twenty-one years, who is in the middle of a tiff. We don't fight often, but when we do it is UGLY.   And it can last a L-O-N-G time.   Days.   Sometimes weeks.   Not the yelling, I don't yell.  I talk.  He yells.  What goes on and on is the silence.

It is the silence that gets to me.   Because when there is no talking all I do is think.   Think about what he might be thinking, think about how mad I am, think about if something happened to either one of us while we weren't talking (for days) how bad I would feel if our relationship ended in silence.

Yet, sometimes I am just pissed off enough to hold out until I think he might understand (although not necessarily agree with) where I am coming from.

What could we possibly fight about? Oh I don't, who pulls more weight in our marriage, social media...

When you live with somebody day in and day out there are bound to be disagreements.  I personally think the reason our marriage works as well as it does is because I am (usually) very laid back.  And he...isn't.  We compliment one another.  Unless I decide my point is worth fighting for.

One of these days we'll get back to "normal".  The kids will go back to school and we'll both get tired of the crickets chirping in the house as he works in his office and I write at my desk in our bedroom.


Kim and Tom Dec 2013

Sometimes you drive me nuts Pumpkin, but 99.9% of the time you make me I am grateful God gave me you.