We have some good friends who sat their children down this weekend, I imagine the conversation began…”Kids, mom and I have something to tell you” and ended with their young lives being forever changed. This is the second family we personally know who have had that type of conversation since the beginning of the year. For that, and many other reasons, Tom and I will recommit ourselves to one another later this month.
I have gone over the details of the evening many times in my mind, beginning with the anticipatory drive from Dallas to Milwaukee. The scurry of activity to get the event hall in order. Me, on the arm of my eldest son, as we walk down the aisle (he was 4 and so cute in his tuxedo the first time Tom and I were married back in 1992). Preceding us I see my son Maddux (9) as ring bearer; and Mia Louise (7) who will relish the role of flower girl. My husband, so handsome, waits for me at the end of the aisle, as our 18-year-old son softly plays Pachabel’s Cannon in D on his acoustic guitar. Off to one side is Brigham (14) taking on the comfort of a behind-the-scenes role as the official videographer. My eyes will no doubt be brimming with tears as we pass through the family and friends gathered to celebrate with us. But to those who will be in attendance, know that the tears you see come from a deep sense of gratitude and pride for the realization of that moment.
We have planned this event to commemorate the fact that, with twenty years of experience under our belts, we know how challenging the commitment of marriage is. We want our children to see their parents make a formal showing of renewing their vows declaring their love and loyalty to one another.
Making this even more special will be the family and friends sharing the experience. I have an aunt and a cousin who will be in town from Wyoming. My baby brother (I can call him this even though he’s 6 foot something and roughly as big and strong as The Hulk) along with his family will join us from South Carolina. My dad, and hopefully his new wife, will be in attendance, bridging a gap that’s been all too wide for the past few years. Some old and dear friends, some Texas friends…all under one roof to celebrate a very happy occasion.
After the ceremony ends, we will enjoy fabulous food catered by my brother-in-law’s restaurant and we will dance the night away among guests both young and old. This night will be about joining in more than an anniversary ceremony, it will be about strengthening relationships with family and friends.
If you are accustom to reading my posts, you know I am very connected to music. Tom and I have chosen this popular song for our “couple’s dance”. We think the words apply to our marriage…although truly they describe all types of unions…friendships, parent/child bonds, sibling relationships and even the most important relationship we can possibly be in. The song so clearly states, “don’t give up, look up” which is where I know Tom and I will continue to gain our love and strength in the coming twenty years.